What does the research about success show us?
According to Dr. Emma Seppala in the July/August 2017 issue of Spirituality and Health:
It shows us that we will gain only momentary bursts of joy from all the pleases we are seeking in life, from sex to money. The long-lasting fulfillment we seek comes from living a life of purpose, of meaning, of compassion, and of altruism. It comes from being there for others...Forget the stories you have heard, forget the cultural lenses you have been subjected to: You already know what leads to true happiness. You already know what you will know on your deathbed: that a life well lived is a life in which you have shared an abundance of love. That the only aspiration to have is to be a wonderful person for some one else.
Some years ago, a therapist friend told me that she had heard the only question that we are asked after we die is: "Who did you love?"